Why Your Body Holds Stress (Even When Your Mind Knows You’re Safe)

Nancy Williams-Foley • 29 September 2025

A client once said to me: “I know I’m fine, but my body doesn’t believe me.”

 She had a good job, a supportive partner, and nothing “major” happening in her life. But her shoulders stayed tense, her stomach was tight, and she struggled to switch off at night. Her mind could list a hundred reasons why she should feel calm - but her body was still stuck in stress mode.

 

If this feels familiar, you’re not alone. Many of us experience this strange disconnect: knowing logically that we’re safe, but still feeling wired, anxious, or on edge.

 

So why does this happen? And more importantly, what can you do about it?

 

The Disconnect Between Mind and Body

Modern life teaches us to think our way through problems. We rationalise, explain, and reassure ourselves. If the mind is settled, we assume the body should follow.

 

But the body doesn’t speak that language.

 

Your nervous system is older and wiser than thought. It remembers every moment of rushing, every period of strain, every time you didn’t get to exhale fully. Even when the stress is over, your body may still be bracing - just in case.

 

That’s why you can be safe, yet restless. Supported, yet exhausted. Outwardly calm, yet clenched on the inside.

 

How Stress Lingers Quietly

Stress isn’t always dramatic. Sometimes it’s quiet and persistent, living in the background:

  • The jaw that aches at the end of the day
  • The stomach that knots before a meeting
  • The racing thoughts that won’t ease at bedtime

 

These aren’t flaws or weaknesses. They’re signs of a nervous system holding on long after the mind has moved on.


What Helps Release It

Talking about stress is useful. It gives the mind space. But to help the body let go, we need a different approach - one that speaks directly to the nervous system.

 

This is where therapies such as acupuncture, reflexology, and EFT can be so powerful. They don’t demand that you explain or rationalise. Instead, they create conditions for the body to exhale - to soften, to release, to remember safety.

 

Clients often describe it as a quiet shift: shoulders dropping, breathing deepening, the kind of rest that feels like coming home to yourself.


  • Acupuncture helps shift the nervous system from “fight or flight” into “rest and digest.” Clients often notice their muscles softening, their breathing deepening, and their sleep improving after treatments.
  • Reflexology offers a deep, whole-body reset through the feet. Many people find it’s the first time in weeks they’ve felt truly relaxed.
  • EFT (tapping) combines gentle touch with emotional processing, helping to release patterns that keep the body stuck in stress.
  • Counselling provides space to explore the emotional weight behind the stress, so body and mind can start working together.


Each of these approaches helps remind your body: you’re safe now, it’s okay to let go.


A Different Kind of Healing

Healing isn’t about forcing the body to “get over it.” It’s about offering support so the nervous system can reset at its own pace. Over time, that can mean less tension, steadier moods, and the relief of finally feeling calm in both body and mind.


If you'd like to find out more about the therapies I offer at George Street Wellness Clinic please click here.

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